My cousin lost a grandson to suicide. She cannot see anyone’s suffering but her own. No concern for her daughter’s loss of her son, nor of her other grandson’s loss of his brother. The only loss that is important to her is her own.
Your mother suffered with you. Your mother felt your loss. That pain put her own pain into perspective. And her acknowledgment of your loss-that expression of her love-was a small bandage for your open wound, your heart ripped open by grief.
I’m so glad for you that you still had your mom when you needed her. A gift from God
If my mom had died first, I wouldn’t have been able to handle it. Witnessing her living in such profound pain, ur still putting everyone else’s needs first was my example of how to grieve.
I have had times when I have been selfish in my grief. I have had moments when I think that I am the only person in the world who has experienced profound loss. Then I just look around - we all suffer.
Your cousin is reacting to her trauma in the only way that her brain will allow, at this time. I pray that she one day realizes that she is not alone.
I thought that too-it would have been so much more overwhelming without your mom. And it’s ironic that we are more likely to notice others suffering when we are in that state, and for the exact reason you mentioned-we look around for answers to our misery and see we’re not the only ones.
Unfortunately, with my cousin it will not change. That’s just who she is. Her daughter has never and probably will never receive any comfort from her mother. It’s been 5 years now.
It is difficult to put into words going and getting a loved one who is deceased, especially a child, especially if they are cremated.
💔🙏 It is hard to find the right words of comfort for what your mom, you and your son endured.
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God blessed you with a strong mind during those times🤍
My cousin lost a grandson to suicide. She cannot see anyone’s suffering but her own. No concern for her daughter’s loss of her son, nor of her other grandson’s loss of his brother. The only loss that is important to her is her own.
Your mother suffered with you. Your mother felt your loss. That pain put her own pain into perspective. And her acknowledgment of your loss-that expression of her love-was a small bandage for your open wound, your heart ripped open by grief.
I’m so glad for you that you still had your mom when you needed her. A gift from God
If my mom had died first, I wouldn’t have been able to handle it. Witnessing her living in such profound pain, ur still putting everyone else’s needs first was my example of how to grieve.
I have had times when I have been selfish in my grief. I have had moments when I think that I am the only person in the world who has experienced profound loss. Then I just look around - we all suffer.
Your cousin is reacting to her trauma in the only way that her brain will allow, at this time. I pray that she one day realizes that she is not alone.
I thought that too-it would have been so much more overwhelming without your mom. And it’s ironic that we are more likely to notice others suffering when we are in that state, and for the exact reason you mentioned-we look around for answers to our misery and see we’re not the only ones.
Unfortunately, with my cousin it will not change. That’s just who she is. Her daughter has never and probably will never receive any comfort from her mother. It’s been 5 years now.
You were indeed blessed
❤️